In her latest book, How to Avoid the 10 Mistakes Single Women Make, Michelle McKinney Hammond pulls no punches in challenging her single sisters to be responsible for guarding their own hearts. Too many times, we alone are responsible for ignoring the warning signs and plunging ahead in relationships that are ill advised and certainly not the Lord's best for us.
Many of the mistakes made come from our inaccurate view of God and of the value of our life in His eyes. Michelle wisely deals with these foundational issues first. Mistake number one, 'Placing marriage on a pedestal next to God,' communicates that we need to find our self-worth in God, not another person. Our thoughts need to be realigned to see things from God's perspective and "... your preconceived notions of the life you had envisioned for yourself must be put to rest before you can open your arms to embrace the life God has for you in the present, ... Life does not consist of those who make me feel that I count. It consists of how much value I add to the life of others ... Your worth through God's eyes has already been determined. In His mind you are priceless."
When we understand our value in God's eyes, we are less likely to make mistakes such as, 'Missing the significance of the present moment,' 'Being shortsighted about life' and 'Subjecting your heart to foolish choices.'
Each of the ten mistakes covered begins with a biblical story to illustrate, and concludes with a solution--the practical, biblical way to rectify it. Questions are included to allow opportunity to reflect and dig deeper.
Everyone who reads this book will probably have a few nerves touched by Michelle's raw honesty--I know I certainly did. However, having our beliefs challenged when they are keeping us from God's best is, while not easy, a necessary and good thing. I look forward to having my thoughts challenged by more of Michelle's refreshing candor in the future.
Armchair Interviews says: Challenging but important points for single women to consider.