I am grateful for this book edited by Basseches, Ellman and Goodman. What makes this book so powerful and engaging is that is is clinically focused, with four detailed cases, followed by discussions from three different experienced analysts from varied theoretical perspectives. The cases help us to understand why individuals love in such destructive and painful ways, a way that cripples all their relationships including the one with their therapist. These are the type of cases that we, as therapists, all struggle with in our own practices. This book allowed me as a therapist and analyst to not feel so alone and to begin to understand this powerful life and death struggle.