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Formato: Copertina flessibile
Gregory L. Chester's new book on parenting states that "It's never too late to become a good parent." Then he proceeds to challenge, encourage, instruct and warn parents of the privileges and pitfalls of raising children.
The author begins by telling his readers about Dr. Benjamin Spock's 1946 book, The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care which changed the way generations of people viewed parenting. Sixty years later, Mr. Chester's book attempts to correct the misunderstanding and confusion that followed Dr. Spock's theories of permissiveness and equality.
"Adults and children are not supposed to be on the same level of equality," observes the author, "otherwise there wouldn't be any 16, 18 and 21-year-old legal limits." Parents protect, teach, earn money for food and shelter, and have the knowledge and experience to make wise decisions; things that children can't do and shouldn't be expected to do. Misplaced equality produces kids who take advantage of and even intimidate their parents. "Treat children as individuals," he cautions, "not as equals."
The book claims that from an infant's first wail (that brings a parental response) the "game" begins, and these games will escalate as they get older and wiser. If parents don't open their eyes and be aware of the games and tests their children present (and justifiably react with authority) their children may not become well adjusted for the Real World that awaits them. "The return of the rules is badly needed today," the author says, "but without the harsh consequences used in the era of our parents."
The book gives some very scary statistics on bullies and their victims. It lists the extreme dangers of violent video games, including their connection to aggressive behavior, drugs, and acts of murder such as the Columbine High School massacre, which was an acting-out of the game, Doom. It also touches briefly on Family Terrorism.
But, Parents Are Being Played Like A Video Game is also full of helpful tips on a variety of things; from chores, to homework issues, to peer problems, to divorce. It offers a test that readers can take to see what type of nurturing parent they are, and in the extensive bibliography, it lists numerous books and web sites that parents can go to for help. "Parenting is definitely not easy," says Gregory L. Chester. Amen to that!
He closes his book with this benediction: Good luck and MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU and may your kids make your proud!